As the I Love My Friends sessions near their close, this week brings together members of Can’t Kids, the Columbia band Fork & Spoon once described as filling “the world’s lack of Dadaist swamp pop,” for a performance of “The Calm.”

Formed by Adam Cullum and Jessica Oliver, Can’t Kids later grew into a four-piece lineup with Amy Cuthbertson on cello and Henry Thomas on bass.

For Thomas, Aaron Graves was part of the sound of Columbia before they ever met.

“I first heard Aaron singing ‘Killer Tofu’ on WUSC,” Thomas says. “I was immediately a fan. He is one of many incredible people I met in those walls.”

Cuthbertson first met Aaron far from Columbia, while visiting New York City during her sophomore year of college. The Heist and the Accomplice were on tour, and Aaron was skateboarding, talking about how he had only brought two sets of clothes.

“I was decidedly uncool and a tag along,” Cuthbertson says. “I’ll echo what everyone always said about Aaron, he never not once made me feel othered or uncool.”

That feeling followed Aaron back home, where his and Jessica’s house became one of the centers of the Fork & Spoon community.

“He made you feel heard and valued and cared for, along with his wife Jessica,” Cuthbertson says. “He was absolutely the glue of our musical community. Some of my favorite memories are at potlucks at the Fork and Spoon house, Aaron and Jessica’s home.”

Cuthbertson remembers Aaron as “cool, and kind, and lovely to be around,” someone who made people want to be better versions of themselves. When Aaron got sick, Cuthbertson and Cullum brought him vegetables from the small organic farm they were helping care for.

“It was a small gesture but he was so gracious about it all,” she says. “I wish I had been a better friend, then. But I know he’d reassure me that it was all good, like he did for everyone.”